"But what about when something bad happens--and especially if that \"something bad\" is in some way your fault?What you've said is, \"I respect you.\" That level of regard is incredibly powerful--and empowering.The right person knows there are things about you that you want to change, but they don't expect them to change overnight.
"I have a really bad habit I'm trying to overcome. "I have all the faith in the world in you," she said. Being happy is one thing, but knowing you have a solid, lasting relationship is something else entirely. Why don't you try?
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That level of regard is incredibly powerful--and empowering.My wife doesn't expect me to be something I'm not. All Rights Reserved.Did people care?
I work hard to find people who are smart, talented, successful, insightful...and that way I never have to write anything negative. (Or to use that mistake as ammunition in disagreements or arguments. You've said, "You have experience (or talents or something) that I don't have. Just suck it up and go," or, "People are going to be disappointed if you don't go," my wife smiles and says, "I really hope you go. One day you can sit next to your significant other and think that it’ll last forever and then the next day one of you is dodging fragile (and often expensive) objects being hurled at your skull.
(A therapist could probably have a field day figuring out why I do that. )But what about when something bad happens--and especially if that "something bad" is in some way your fault?The right person knows enough about your work, your goals, your dreams, and the kind of person you want to be to offer ideas you haven't considered.The right person sees the good in you, over and over again. What can I do to help you get ready? How you handle your relationships and all of the things that life throws at you can tell you how well it will last. "Why? Great teams are made up of employees who help each other, know their roles, set aside personal goals, and value team success over everything else.When one person makes a mistake -- especially a major mistake -- it's easy for their partner to forever view them through the lens of that mistake.
(They did, though. Both were awesome.
(In short, if I can't say anything good, I don't say anything. But every time I talked about giving up, my wife kept me centered by gently reminding me that all the work I was doing would pay off if I stayed the course. Created with Sketch.
When you’re in a relationship that could go somewhere, these sorts of things simply don’t happen.